When You Don’t Feel Good Enough

So often we hear a voice in our head telling us

we are not good enough, pretty enough, thin enough, wealthy enough, smart enough, intelligent enough, accomplished enough…and many more harsh self criticisms and judgments. Those are the moments when we abandon ourselves and fall prey to self victimization.

We give our power away.

But most importantly we forget to be compassionate and loving towards our self.

When you hear the voice of that inner critic

condemning you and telling you that you are not good enough in some way, stop that mental voice and immediately activate your defense attorney through conscious self talk. Let your deliberate mind provide you evidence of your goodness and capabilities by offering circumstantial evidence of the times when you have excelled and outdone your own expectations.

Let it remind you that it is okay

to make mistakes for it allows you to learn and grow. Let it show you how to love yourself regardless of any expectations.

 This way you can argue with, and win

the debate with your inner prosecutor, letting him know that you are good just as you are; and then you can begin to accept yourself. You can accept that you are willing to learn and grow from your lapses and win the case of self abnegation to uphold your self- worth.

 Most importantly you will learn

to look at yourself in the mirror and instead of picking faults in that reflection you will be able to smile and say, I love you just the way you are.